Q: I’m a single mother of a 10-year-old son, never been married. I’m currently dating a married man who has been separated from his wife for two years, and they live in two separate residents. He introduced us three weeks ago. We have been seeing each other for three months. My feelings are starting to grow for him, and although I know I can’t truly have anything with this man until his divorce is finalized, I’m interested in your advice.
A: My advice is to take your own advice. As you stated, due his current “situation” you cannot truly have a REALationship with him. Even as things progress, and if he should finalize his divorce, you should remain cautious. Cautious in the sense that it has taken him two years to “finalize” his divorce. Obviously, there are a number of reasons why this could have taken this long, including but not limited to: he is not really ready to move on.
Now, I’m no psychic. However, I would guess there is still “something” there between him and his wife. Which brings me to your “feelings that are starting to grow.”
Identify the root of these feelings. If we were to be honest, the root is growing from half of this man, because you do not yet have all of him. Make the distinction as to whether the feelings are genuinely for him, or are they rooted in the thought of him, the 50 percent you don’t have?
I wish you the best. But keep your eyes wide open, for the sake of you and the main man in your life – your 10-year-old son.
Be blessed, live free, love more,
Latricia