Refuse to cook Thanksgiving dinner without a Turkey!
By Gwendolyn Baines
NNPA Columnist
Dear Gwendolyn:
Every Christmas and Thanksgiving, my husband comes up with an excuse not to purchase a turkey. Our turkey always came from his job. However, two months ago his job downsized and my husband was in the termination group. With his severance pay, he paid additional house mortgage in fear of not finding employment immediately. Gwendolyn, my husband knows I stick to tradition. I grew up with the finest of things. Both my parents were professionals. His were not. I’m tired of having to change my life pattern just to be married to him. My parents didn’t want me to marry a man from the other side of the tracks. We didn’t get the type of car I wanted. He talked me into getting cheap furniture unlike the elaborate kind I was accustomed to. I’m tired now. Am I wrong to leave?
Barbara
Dear Barbara:
No. You are not wrong. In fact, you should have left long ago. It seems that you and your husband are unequally yoked. Let me tell you this: Maybe you should have listened to your parents. In choosing a mate, it is better to be led by your heart and not by the determination of a track. True love does not see boundaries. When murderers are caught they are often from the professional side of the track. And when men rise to fortune and fame, they are often from – the other side of the track. So, you see Barbara. It’s not the track causing the problem. You are struggling with the mindset your parents have instilled. Sure, they were professionals, but were they really happy? Probably so, or was one more sickening than the other? Barbara, please take note of what you are doing. You are leaving a good man only because your parents brought you up in a different culture. By your husband taking care of the mortgage by paying months ahead is quite a man of knowledge and understanding. I feel you need to rethink your decision before packing your bags. Anyway, Thanksgiving is not about who is cooking what, but about being with family and friends breaking bread. It is a time for giving thanks. If you leave, try to be gone by Christmas. No man needs to be in the presence of any woman who does not realize that happiness is not generated from a turkey — even if you have all the trimmings.