For the NNPA
Dear Gwendolyn:
Last year my best friend since elementary school got married. Two months after their marriage, her husband made a pass at me. He is not from our town and only met me during their wedding rehearsals. Every time I visit he winks his eye at me as soon as his wife is not in our presence. Last week I insisted on helping her in the kitchen. She had invited some of his friends over to watch the basketball game. Should I tell her? I am no way interested in her husband and do not believe in dating married men. He whispered to me that ‘the chemistry’ is driving him to me. I don’t know what to do. Please advise.
Juslene
Dear Juslene:
Do nothing. Stay away. If you tell your friend, there is a 99 percent chance she will not believe you. Also, if you tell her, the husband will claim you made the pass at him. And again, who do you think she is going to believe? Her husband of course.
Let me tell you this: There seems to be so much adultery these days and it may be a sign of the times. But, I think it is the fact people are more into ‘trash’ than ‘treasure.’ A man should treasure his wife and not be led by the temptation of his emotions.
Elderly women used to tell their daughters not to have single women around. That was quite ignorant. You know what…it was not the single women to watch, but to watch their married women friends.
There is another option. You could warn him that if he continues, you will tell his wife. That too could have shaky results. No, the best for you to do is to move on with your life. Your best friend has her husband. Now you look for yours. Find something creative to do and meet friends in that circle. As long as you hang with your married best friend, your own chance for happiness will be slim.
Juslene never let a man tell you that ‘the chemistry’ is causing him to do what he is doing. It is not the chemistry, but his low character — way of life.
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