Why is it so mind-boggling, surprising and shocking when those women in the church want to have sex?
The reason some skip around corners after service, eyeing the Deacon, dress provocatively while they are shouting to “Give Myself Away” (even though their version maybe different) is because we need to be real with ourselves.
It is my purpose to help someone be real – instead of masquerading and hiding behind pulpits, seminars and flying across the country to conferences, only to leave sexually on fire and come back the same.
Why the struggle? Because we have this hypocrisy that we have learned in church called “pretend,” but if we tell God the truth, He can calm us down.
Being a woman minister, there are standards and requirements that come with the package. You are always being judged for something you do. If you preached right, judged. Preached wrong, judged. If you wear your dress ankle-length, judged. To your knee, judged. And God forbid if you wear it just right: scandalous.
But with all that God has called us to be, we are women who have affections, desires and needs.
The greatest liberation we can receive in our walk with Christ is to be real with ourselves and drop the entire pretense as if we are on this spiritual voyage that nothing moves us, turns us on or we don’t want a man.
With all of our spirituality, you can’t go into denial of your passions and desires (and some are intense moments). God Almighty has to intervene – because some of us are contemplating things in our mind and how we can be out there without losing our roles.
Did I tell you this was for women who can only be real?
To my sistahs, being in ministry doesn’t eliminate you from being a woman!
What happened? Now that you are the “called,” you took that scripture that says “there is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus” out of context. We are still women, and God did not deaden your sexuality when you said “yes” to Him!
Saved, sanctified, filled with the Holy Ghost, speaking in tongues, running around the church, falling out with cloths hanging all over you, you are still a woman!
No matter how anointed we are and the great title we may carry, you are still a woman!
We need help to be contained before, during and after services (it has gotten that bad), and the truth of our sexuality needs to be addressed and some of our sexuality need to be arrested.
How can we be reached on the inside, especially the ones that are half-way losing their minds wearing a clergy collar?
We carry such a façade about ourselves that we can barely reach the women in the church, let alone the ones in the streets.
We have women who don’t want to keep falling down and can’t get up, but who is going to reach them when some of us are falling down and won’t get up? We have learned how to be churchy so tough, that we appear to be holy when we are not.
The truth starts with us, when we are real with ourselves and say, “I am a woman and I have needs!”
We have to stop the pretense and teach sex right. Let the sisters know that sex was created by God, but for marriage. Let them know that it is “normal” to have sexual urges and tendencies, but it is God’s will for them to be shared with someone who loves with an “I do.”
