“I don’t need a man to do anything for me!” some women say.
There may be plenty of truth to that. And, hey, I’m all for women being independent. Lord knows, they have so many reasons to reach independence. We don’t have to get into the reasons. But ladies, obviously, y’all need this man to tell y’all to stop letting your independence block a man’s proper propriety, etiquette and chivalry.
By the way, chivalry isn’t dead, so don’t help put it to death.
Shall we start with one of my most frustrating reminders that some women have let their independence get in the way of a man’s responsibility? Opening doors!
If you’re on a date with a man – don’t open the door. Obviously, there are some situations – like if he’s carrying something with both hands – when you should open the door. But, too many times I see women opening doors.
I already told my 12-year-old daughter. I also tell my female friends, and my lady friend knows.
We approach a door, I open it, and – voila!
And just because you (independent women) arrived at the door to the restaurant (or wherever you may go) prior to your date, doesn’t mean you should open the door.
If you arrive at the door first, simply move to the side, giving him ample space to open the door.
Sure, you’re independent and can open a door yourself, but let a man do his part. I mean, if he’s riding with you (for whatever reason) in 5 degree, sleeting weather and you need some gas, wouldn’t you then let him pump it?
Okay, some “independent” women still won’t. But a man knows that he should.
And brothers if a woman you’re on a date with opens the door for you all, let her know. Just say something to the affect of: “You shouldn’t be opening doors.”
Trust me – she will like that, and you will score a point. If you have to show her the entire routine, like where she should stand, should she approach a door before you, it’s worth it.
And believe me, it even looks good. There’s nothing like seeing a refined women trusting and expecting nothing but refinement from her guy or date.
Don’t get me wrong, some women already know this and demand it. And by the same token, if a woman shows you proper door etiquette, roll with it.
It sounds cliché, but we should “treat women like queens,” whether they’re on their “independent” kick or not, or if you’re on a first date – or the 90th.